Monday, May 27, 2013

たんぽぽ,蒲公英,Dandelion

たんぽぽ(tanpopo),蒲公英,Dandelion


昨天傍晚陪孩子们踏脚车时,遇见了它们但却没带来相机。这天的一大早,乘孩子还没起床,乘着我的另一半还没上班,乘着たんぽぽ还没乘着晨风为梦想奔驰而去时与它们有约。

很神奇美丽的花种子,很精致伶俐的设计。它们给予的使命就是带着承诺随着风而去,散播着它们绝无仅有的特别生命活力。很喜欢它。









是要随风颠沛流离,但当你们得离开的时候,希望不再犹豫地把潜伏的勇气快快的拿出来覆盖着你的小扇。加油!Ganbatte!




Saturday, May 25, 2013

Happy Easter

复活节的前一个星期,我们说好要为星期日的小朋友送上复活节小蛋糕。 就在这星期日早上,天气冷冷的,感觉还很累的我搞得我有点想放弃的念头。但以答应了这两兄弟要的事,还是得爬起来,7.15am。大约准备了大约10分钟左右,楼梯口传来了脚步声。出乎预料,是徐信。今天的他起的比平日的他还要早。

Mummy :“Ethan,Why you are so early today?”
Ethan :“I want to see what are you doing?”
Mummy :“hmm.... I am preparing to make the little cakes for the Sunday school children. But I am not sure how many should I prepare. 20? 30? What about the teachers? ”
Ethan : "We make 30!?"
Mummy : "How many student normally in a class?"
Ethan : "sometime more, sometime less..."
Mummy : "Which mean, how many we should prepare? What if not enough...?"
Ethan pause a while...
Mummy : "If really not enough, can you give your one to others first? and I will bake you another big one when you return home?"
Ethan : "OK"

徐信在准备的过程中不断的说,"很香,我很想吃"。。。但怕数量不足,拒绝了他。看在眼里的我,徐信长大了。从前的小哥哥,分享对他来说不是个易事,也不是他的喜好。来到了利益冲突,很快的就把他墙壘分明。

五岁左右的孩子开始懂得把这礼让之间的,距离拉近了一些。我在想,我可以做些什么事情帮助他,还有家里的弟弟妹妹们更能够谅解和明白礼让之间的态度。哥哥大,要先学会让弟弟妹妹们,要先学会帮助弟弟妹妹。这常是我们常提醒徐信的对待弟弟妹妹的态度。然后希望弟弟妹妹的态度很快就能在后来追上。

三个不同年龄的小朋友要生活在一起,在他们这小小年纪和性格取向,礼让是个大功课。对父母的我也是个超大的功课。要抓摸拿捏的准不偏爱要帮助教导,有时真的把我捆倒,甚至可以很快把我弄得怒气冲冲。可以真的很气,气得要拿藤条做和谐武器。反省自己可以同时发生在破口大骂孩子的时候,但伤害的话可能以不能挽回。或之后不断的问自己说,不是说好要耐心教导孩子吗?就因自己的脾气感到罪恶感,反复的活在自责里头。在外工作,孩子没有被细心看顾教导而自责,全职在家看顾教导他们有时也会弄巧反拙也感到很自责。妈妈会是容易被脾气挑动而生气的人,孩子怎会是个没脾气的人呢。。。更何况我们都是有属性人。

我常常感到,上帝把这小孩们放在我家里,首先把爱的功课放在这家,之后就是要帮助我学习看待人生的速程班。每当我为他们准备圣经故事,讲解圣经的典故,说基督品格故事,或在学习语文,数学,科学等等,我都感到首先是我被塑造。就如同再一次认识这创造宇宙万物的神,被鼓励,被帮助,再次被爱,被感动。

我相信我不是个完全人,我相信罪的存在,我相信人的软弱。我也相信,与孩子共度的时光是让我认真地看待自己生命的意义,我也相信创造宇宙万物的神通过孩子扩张了我的生命。

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完成了!弟弟妹妹也随着起床。他们看见了小蛋糕,非常的开心。辛苦了爸爸要帮忙收拾。
开开心心的同到教会去。

30个小蛋糕,不多也不少。^_^







当我把孩子放送到主日学校时,有一群义务的Sunday School Teachers,每个星期日愿意用着他们的爱来细心教导,帮助孩子。我相信他们的生命里头也一定不断的被感动着,也同时拥有美丽的感动。
谢谢Sunday School Teachers,让孩子们看见这世界有爱!


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15 Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.” 16 And he took the children in his arms, placed his hands on them and blessed them. 
Mark 10:15-16

 我实在告诉你们,凡要承受神国的,若不像小孩子,断不能进去。 于是抱着小孩子,给他们按手,为他们祝福。
马可福音 10:15-16



Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Elephant Power

The elephant story bringing out the message of "Obedience" Character. I selected this as one of the priority character builder for the kids at home. While I preparing the lesson before hands for them, I started to ponder, "Obedient". At their little age, there are lot of thing to learn and to understand the rules of living. There are something, some rules they couldn't break it, they have to obey with it. What about me in this age, what is the obedience subject for me, so they will able to model in life long? And we can build the character as a family. I am questioning myself, will I obey to something that I can cheerfully carrying out the wise direction of those who are responsible for me? Who are responsible with me in this age? It seems I have come to a stage I just like the boss to manage home, I am holding the highest authority to in charge of my life. I can do any decision, if I wanted to. I can respect others, but doesn't really come to a point of obey. But the only one I am fearful with is God, if he said he is the one who created the heavens and earth, the one who called me as their children. 

Throughout my life, I didn't read bible as fast as I am at this point time. It should be desire driving me to get inside the bible, in order to seek for what will going to happen next; and the options as a human will have in this life. I feel that I am lost here and there to carry out my duty at home as a full time mom, and be a great companion of my husband. The strength to love and care my immediately families members and the binding power to hold the friendship. If the bible is a media to understand the history of Human being with God, from the beginnings to the end. I shouldn't miss it. I got to find out what is really true in this world. I can't just believe there is a God, but I don't know anything about God. Who is God, why I am here? Why God said He created the heavens and earth, and we are here. And everyone is fair to have only 24 hours a day, no matter who you are. I am digging into the Bible to tell me the truth. The hard core of the bible come into this point, "For God so loved the world, so He gave his one and only son. Whoever believe in Him, shall not perish, but with eternal life". "Love?", "Believe?", "Perish?", "Eternal?"

"Love", "Believe", "Perish", "Eternal". 

Throughout the bible, it recorded the relationship between human and God, and lot of story about human behavior, obedience is one of the big topic to discuss. Carry out the obedient, it needs a lot of understand of the truth, it also can simple as based on the faith to authority. 

Obedience is much more seen in little things than in great. Staying at home be a full time mom, I obey to the simple formula of LOVE. I BELIEVE, they will be under a good care as I can provide to them at this point of time. So they will not PERISH by misleading, influence and follow what is not right and by the world who are not authorize to do so. We will find the ETERNAL hope for the whole family to carry on and new life after our physical body and new life for the new generation by generation... 









  • Obey to parents in God, as this is right. Is a responsibility as a parent to teach children why an activity is right or wrong. 
  • Have a Cheerful attitude for both parents and child.
  • Complete all that I am expected to do and go the "extra mile" together.
  • Children understanding the purpose of guidelines and the consequences for failing to obey them.
  • Not obey a wrong command. Reject wrong actions n order to obey parents, despite other pressures.

Quickly and cheerfully carrying out the wise direction of those are responsible for me.

I believe obedient spirit in sons and daughters motivates me to give the wisest possible counsel for their decision they face each day and life. It is a life long character to practice. To me, and to my little ones at home. Is a on going thing to do...






The Elephant

Heavy Wheels rolled along the road, stirring up great clouds of dust. Horses strained and axles squeaked as the old wagons wound their way toward the edge of town. The circus was coming! Each wagon carried strange animals which the townsfolk had never seen before. 

There were lions, tigers and elephants, camels, bears, and monkeys; zebras, giraffes, and peacocks. Children gathered along the road. Their eyes shone with eager anticipation as they crowded around the wagons, hoping to catch a glimpse of the ringmaster, or the clowns, or the high-flying acrobats. 

However, what the children were about to witness was more astounding than any circus act They were about to see an example of obedience which they would never forget. 

As the wagons came to a stop in a large empty field which skirted the edge of a river just outside of town, several circus hands laid out a huge red and white tent on the grass. They carefully unfolded and unfolded and unfolded it until it covered almost the whole field. Others fitted long poles together and inserted them into brightly polished brass rings. 

Much to the children's surprise, a young man not much older than they were walked up and looked at the tent. He folded his arms and studied the situation. Then without a word he turned and disappeared into the crowd of circus workers. A few minutes later the young man reappeared. Walking next to his right shoulder was a magnificent Indian elephant moved obediently with him. When the young man stopped, his elephant stopped too. 

Hanging from the elephant's shoulders was a huge leather harness. It wrapped around the front of his neck and hooked together under his chest behind his front legs. It looked strong! as he stood there, the circus workers tied a thick, heavy rope to the harness. At the other end of the rope lay a large loop which the workers fitted around the base of the largest tent pole. Once everything had been carefully arranged, the young man whispered a single word into his elephant's ear. He simply said, "Kneel." The elephant never hesitated as it lowered its head and raised its front leg. The young man stepped up on the elephant's bent knee, swung himself up, and straddled the elephant's neck just behind its ears. 

Then the young man whispered another word. He simply said, "Pull!" Without even the slightest pause the elephant leaned forward. The hardness squeaked as it tightened around his shoulders. The rope drew taut! Every muscle in the elephant's body strained against the weight of the tent. Slowly, but steadily, the bottom of the tent pole moved across the ground. as the bottom moved forward, the top of the pole began to rise. Higher and higher it rose until it was almost vertical. The whole weight of the tent rested on the pole, but the elephant didn't flinch. He continued to pull. 

His master once again leaned over and whispered as single word. All he said was, "Stop." The children saw the elephant stop abruptly in the middle of a step. The pole stood straight up and down. To pull even a few inches too far could send the tent pole plummeting over backward, collapsing the tent, and injuring the circus workers who risked their lives every time they pitched the "Big Top."Everyone cheered as the circus workers feverishly staked down the edges of the tent to hold it in place. The elephant's job was done. 

In just a few hours the tent would echo as the ringmaster shouted the words, "Ladies and Gentlemen  Boys and Girls, the circus is about to begin! There was just one problem... Once small, but disastrous problem. The workers, in their haste to prepare for the evening show, had pitched the tent in the wrong spot! The Big Top was supposed to be on the other side of the river, where all the fod for the animals had been delivered a few hours before the circus had arrived in town. No food meant hungry animals. Hungry animals meant hungry lions, and hungry lions meant... Oh, boy!

Unfortunately, the only bridge across the river was too far away to move the food before the evenin show, and the circus tent was too hard to take down and move to other side of the river. The show must go on! But how?

Boldly the young man stepped forward with his elephant still at his side. He whispered but one word in his elephant's ear. He simply said "Fetch.". Immediately, the elephant turned and headed toward the river. He stepped into the water, not knowing how deep it was. He waded deeper and deeper until only back legs toughed the rocky bottom. Not knowing how to swim, he balanced himself on his hind legs to keep his head above water. Eventually he climbed out of the river on the other side. 

At first the elephant appeared puzzled. His master had given him only one word of instruction. He looked back across the river at the young man who had sent him. He could see his master leaning against a tree with his arms folded, waiting! Doing what he was expected to do, the elephant carefully slid his powerful tusks under one of the pallets of food which lay before him and wrapped his long trunk securely over the top to hold the bags in place. Looking more like a forklift than an elephant, he turned and stepped back into the river. Holding the feed high above the water to avoid getting it wet, the elephant worked his way back across the river. 

Setting the pallet of grain at his master's feet, the elephant looked expectantly at this master. But his master said nothing. Again the elephant looked puzzled. He looked at his master. He looked across the river. He looked at the heavy pallet of grain. Doing what he was supposed to do, the elephant plunged into the water. Across the river he went for a second load of grain. 

By the time he'd returned, the first pallet was empty. Workers busily distributed the food among the circus animals, but his master continued to lean against the tree with his arms folded. The elephant looked at his master. He looked at the food. He looked across the river. Without any further instruction, he plunged into the river a third time. Again and again! Back and forth he went. All afternoon and into the early evening he worked until he had carried the final pallet of feed across the river and set it at this master's feet. 

When all was done, the amazing elephant had fed the whole circus. Then to everyone's surprise, he stepped up to his master, lowered his head, and began to purr. Though he hadn't eaten anything himself, though he had worked all day, though he was dripping wet and cold, the pleasant rumbling sound expressed the elephant's cheerful attitude. 

Inside the Big Top, the laughter of children quieted and the lights dimmed as the words, "Ladies and Gentlemen, Boys and Girls" rang throughout the circus... only because of the obedience of the elephant. 

Thursday, May 16, 2013

2013年小孩写下的春天

天气转温了,对于长大于热带国家的妈妈开始感觉到一种熟悉的空气。不知道是否是我生长于热带国家,走在冬天让我感到艰难适应,好像不懂得要如何生活失去本能。冷的浑身不自在,皮肤也因冷起了变化,骨头僵硬疼痛。不懂应该吃什么,要喝什么,要穿什么才温暖又不过于闷热难受然后感冒等等。食物才刚煮好,一会儿就变得冷冰冰了,拿起冰冷的铁汤匙,感觉怪怪的。

徐信,这开路先锋快要进入一年级的入学年龄了。Home schooling的日子,看着他一天一天的长大,性格取向,学习能力也进入了稳定期,又是要迈向另一个他成长的里程碑。是否要继续Home schooling这哥哥,还是该是时候让他上学校去呢?要到选择怎么样的学校才适合全家人的动向?

这两个月,就是时时想着要如何养育家里的小朋友们,搞得好像要活埋自由的想法。喂奶不再是现在孩子们的关键了。身体健壮,品格塑造,学业进度,社交关系成为关注要事。要如何行事呢?为着此事,不断地寻找方案。在一个陌生的地方,语言文化差异之间,寻求帮助,让我挑战重重。尝试去认识一些日本妈妈,但语言障碍很难达到真正可以沟通的境界。

上学校,或许校车不是个普遍的学校交通工具,给与七八岁以下的孩子们,一大早妈妈们踏着脚车前后载着一个,甚至还可载上三个,或胸前或背后背着一个,手拉着一个,不分春夏秋冬走上十多份钟的路,把他们带到学堂。放学后继续接送到其他的学习地点。我想象把自己放入他们的生活样式,第一个挑战就是“踏脚车,载三个”。我真的不敢想象如果失足跌到呢?还是驾车好,那就是买车,考车牌,但日本不是每个地方都可驾车都能到。停车场以分钟计算,大概十分钟100yen。无论是在文化沟通,体力和财务上,都含有重重的障碍要面对。事无定见,难于抓摸的情况下淹没了方向困扰着我,停留了一段时间不懂要如何回应。

要继续生活在一个好像不属于我们的地方,然后却享受着在一个不同领域,不同天气,于此变成生活的动力???还是去一个让一家人比较舒适熟悉,容易生存的地方,而减低忧虑,免得过于严肃变得战战兢兢???

回想去年的春天我们都往外观察花草树木的生长,今年的春天差一点就让忧虑活埋了春天的美丽。今天带着他们又去踩树叶,又让我再次感受与home schooling的孩子们一同渡过的特别季节,分享这小段特别的童年。


妹妹的小手

去年徐信还不太感兴趣于树叶的构造,今年的他却起了许多对树叶的疑问。孩子的成长和学习,好像是有他开窍的时间。他在五岁前不能顺写简单的华文字,为此我们停留了他书写的练习好一大段的日子。但这两个月,在让他尝试时却看见了因岁月的成长加添了他的能力。
  
本来说好只是採叶子,却被这小子连根拔起真不好意思。他却大喊说:“mummy你看,它是有root的!”

小妹有样学样,还是似模似样的跟随着哥哥们做事。。。

徐恒开心的说:“你看,caterpillar吃掉了这叶子"

徐信说:“This is compound leave!"。他终于能分辨这是compound leave了。

徐恒说“我也有!”,吓了我一跳,怎么採了那么多!

Mummy :“弟弟,看这边!take photo一下"
就是这样,拍照时就是喜欢遮眼遮脸。



来,拍全体照。。。 





前后没有到一分钟的孩子。。。




转身,妹妹拔起蒲公英花也在吹!

徐信:“这是love的leave!”
mummy:“信,恒,悦”


一切的难熬,因着孩子却变成了一种动力。春天的到来,却怀念冬天走过的日子。是怀念着那种要活着的动力,推动了我与上帝的关系,推动了我与丈夫,孩子的关系。

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

水曜日の図書館 (星期三的图书馆)

打从五个星期前的每个星期三,我们都特别提早出外到我们家十分钟路途的图书馆去。每星期三,十二点钟到一点钟,从零岁到五岁的小孩能免费利用图书馆的室内运动场。如要借用场所大概需要6000yen ~ 10000yen左右。当我们知道有这服务能提供给我们家的小孩,我想这也是好机会到这里玩的同时也希望能遇见一些同年龄的小朋友们一起共乐。

在这五个星期里的每个星期三,我们真的很努力提早到图书馆去,可惜都没遇上任何小朋友。我心里是有点失望,本想为他们找些朋友一同玩耍, 却是给我们包了全场。 好大的一个室内运动场,却只有我们四个人。每星期三,所有的幼儿园都是早放学的阿!为何空空呢?是否是免费所以没人来,还是没人知道这个免费让小孩使用的大室内体育场?无论如何虽然只有我们四人行,孩子们还是玩的不亦乐乎,在春天里溜了满身大汗。我这开始老化的骨头却是变得的满身酸痛。







这个星期我们没有带便当出去,但到图书馆里的一个小餐馆吃午餐。叫了两个成人套餐,四个人吃个饱!这是第一次,我们四人到外吃午餐。对我是个特别的午餐!以此照片为念,愿能铭记这天的天气,我们遇见的美丽花朵,这天孩子天真笑容。

信,恒,悦。



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每个星期三,图书馆也有免费提供30分钟读童书给三岁以上的小朋友听。虽是日语童书,十句搞不懂几句,但孩子还很愿意一同共读。我们就在这而逗留到下午四时左右,才回家去。很喜欢这图书馆。在过去的一年里,我们每两周都借20本英语童书和图画书回家。也大概把这里仅有的好几百本英语童书和图画书都念完了。会不会是预兆是时候离开日本了?还是是时候迈入日语童书,但却真的还搞不懂日语,真糟糕。